I’ve been thought of as a cold person who has lack of compassion for others especially when they express how miserable they may be or expressing how another person treated them poorly and I do not reciprocate their feelings.
From my point of view, it is not compassion that I am not expressing, it is sympathy. Sympathy is defined as the feeling that you care about and are sorry about someone else’s trouble, grief, misfortune.
Compassion is defined as the sympathetic consciousness of others’ distress together with a desire to alleviate it.
Everyone that states they wished their life were different to me, I have gobs of compassion for. However, it can be challenging for others to understand that and here is why.
I’ve learned as I’m going through my Ascension process, that sympathy and compassion are both responses of the EGO or can be. Sympathy is an emotional response being sought because the EGO is running the show. The EGO when active, or when living through EGO, can make us have self-doubt, if we listen to it. I feel when one is looking for sympathy; they’ve listened to the self-doubt the EGO is projecting. By me giving sympathy, I am only encouraging EGO and the need for more reassurance, i.e. self-doubt. The wanting of reassurance that a complaint is valid and the feelings associated with it are valid, is to serve EGO. If I give sympathy to the EGO, I’m taking away the free-will or power of the human who’s EGO is in control of at this moment.
On the other hand, compassion was a harder lesson to learn (for me) and here is why. To have compassion is to feel for another when they are in a situation they do not like and a desire to help them is present. The desire to help can be the EGO trap and was the lesson that was more difficult to master. Wanting to help another is the greatest service to humanity. As long as you are asked for that help….. That was the key for me.
Those with a lot of compassion towards people can only act if asked for assistance otherwise the action of giving help is from the EGO as well. Giving without being asked is taking away free-will or power of another.
For example. You complain to me that life is hard, you aren’t living where you want to, don’t have the amount of money you want, don’t like your job, many things that are said over and over again daily. I don’t respond with the normal, go to statements; it will get better, look on the bright side, etc. In this situation, you are complaining as your EGO has brought to your attention self-doubt and you are looking for reassurance that you are correct about the situation. You very well may be correct about it, however, me giving sympathy to you in this situation changes it how? It doesn’t. It would only satisfy your EGO, maybe, and you would go on living the same crappy life, as you’ve defined it.
With compassion, in this example, I could respond with many examples of how you could change your life and make it better. That may bring some comfort to you, it may not. However, by me just throwing out how to help you is MY EGO saying, I can help you; I’m sure I can help. That may be true. My suggestions may help. However, I wasn’t asked for that information. The desire to help can be so overwhelming to ease the pain of another that it could easily be the EGO trap.
Boy how I loved to give advice to those that complain about this or that to me with some grand words that I found inspiring or whatever I’m inspired to say. However, that is a response from EGO. Waiting for the need to ask at first, was challenging. Once I learned this particular lesson that I need to be asked, implementing it was the challenge. I even tried to engage people to ask me… Boy, that was EGO too and all about control.
I am filled with compassion. I do not participate in sympathy. Learning to let people say whatever they want and to not have a response other than I understand what you are saying, was a powerful lesson. Yes, that answer can seem very cold. But I am exercising my power over my EGO by not responding with more and I’m not making your EGO grow or remain entrenched. The best I can do is shine love and light to you so that you find your way through the maze we live in.
I found a great way to find out who’s driving my bus so to speak, Soul or Soul's EGO, was to ask myself what is the intention of telling someone this information? Is it so they agree with me? Is it so they say I’m right? Is it because I want to show them how much I know? Is it because I really am looking for their opinion and advice? Will it make their day better? Is it to share information with them about something they just said? Did they ask for my thought????
Getting to the intention of why I’m sharing this helped me stop this behavior and continue down the path to my real-self shining through the Sherry everyone sees instead of letting the EGO stay in control. Thanks, EGO for the lessons. Time to stand down, I got this.
So, the next time, someone doesn't respond to your complaint with sympathy - please consider this point of view. They aren't cold, they aren't compassionless, they may be exercising complete compassion and preserving free-will of all involved.
From my point of view, it is not compassion that I am not expressing, it is sympathy. Sympathy is defined as the feeling that you care about and are sorry about someone else’s trouble, grief, misfortune.
Compassion is defined as the sympathetic consciousness of others’ distress together with a desire to alleviate it.
Everyone that states they wished their life were different to me, I have gobs of compassion for. However, it can be challenging for others to understand that and here is why.
I’ve learned as I’m going through my Ascension process, that sympathy and compassion are both responses of the EGO or can be. Sympathy is an emotional response being sought because the EGO is running the show. The EGO when active, or when living through EGO, can make us have self-doubt, if we listen to it. I feel when one is looking for sympathy; they’ve listened to the self-doubt the EGO is projecting. By me giving sympathy, I am only encouraging EGO and the need for more reassurance, i.e. self-doubt. The wanting of reassurance that a complaint is valid and the feelings associated with it are valid, is to serve EGO. If I give sympathy to the EGO, I’m taking away the free-will or power of the human who’s EGO is in control of at this moment.
On the other hand, compassion was a harder lesson to learn (for me) and here is why. To have compassion is to feel for another when they are in a situation they do not like and a desire to help them is present. The desire to help can be the EGO trap and was the lesson that was more difficult to master. Wanting to help another is the greatest service to humanity. As long as you are asked for that help….. That was the key for me.
Those with a lot of compassion towards people can only act if asked for assistance otherwise the action of giving help is from the EGO as well. Giving without being asked is taking away free-will or power of another.
For example. You complain to me that life is hard, you aren’t living where you want to, don’t have the amount of money you want, don’t like your job, many things that are said over and over again daily. I don’t respond with the normal, go to statements; it will get better, look on the bright side, etc. In this situation, you are complaining as your EGO has brought to your attention self-doubt and you are looking for reassurance that you are correct about the situation. You very well may be correct about it, however, me giving sympathy to you in this situation changes it how? It doesn’t. It would only satisfy your EGO, maybe, and you would go on living the same crappy life, as you’ve defined it.
With compassion, in this example, I could respond with many examples of how you could change your life and make it better. That may bring some comfort to you, it may not. However, by me just throwing out how to help you is MY EGO saying, I can help you; I’m sure I can help. That may be true. My suggestions may help. However, I wasn’t asked for that information. The desire to help can be so overwhelming to ease the pain of another that it could easily be the EGO trap.
Boy how I loved to give advice to those that complain about this or that to me with some grand words that I found inspiring or whatever I’m inspired to say. However, that is a response from EGO. Waiting for the need to ask at first, was challenging. Once I learned this particular lesson that I need to be asked, implementing it was the challenge. I even tried to engage people to ask me… Boy, that was EGO too and all about control.
I am filled with compassion. I do not participate in sympathy. Learning to let people say whatever they want and to not have a response other than I understand what you are saying, was a powerful lesson. Yes, that answer can seem very cold. But I am exercising my power over my EGO by not responding with more and I’m not making your EGO grow or remain entrenched. The best I can do is shine love and light to you so that you find your way through the maze we live in.
I found a great way to find out who’s driving my bus so to speak, Soul or Soul's EGO, was to ask myself what is the intention of telling someone this information? Is it so they agree with me? Is it so they say I’m right? Is it because I want to show them how much I know? Is it because I really am looking for their opinion and advice? Will it make their day better? Is it to share information with them about something they just said? Did they ask for my thought????
Getting to the intention of why I’m sharing this helped me stop this behavior and continue down the path to my real-self shining through the Sherry everyone sees instead of letting the EGO stay in control. Thanks, EGO for the lessons. Time to stand down, I got this.
So, the next time, someone doesn't respond to your complaint with sympathy - please consider this point of view. They aren't cold, they aren't compassionless, they may be exercising complete compassion and preserving free-will of all involved.